You know what I'm talking about right....those things that get in the way of your best laid plans? An obstacle that was not foreseen? A pothole that's big enough to swallow you whole? A hurtle that you just can't scale?
Well...the difference between someone who doesn't get the job done, and the person who does, is how they deal with these issues as they arise. Now I will admit that I'm one to take the path of least resistance, and totally drop out of reality when things that are bigger then me pop up. At least I was like that until I finally realized that I'm not really getting anywhere. So, over the last several months I've been on a positive kick. Thanks largely to a phenomenal friend I'll call "G", who very politely pointed out that I have a nasty negative streak in me that can suck happiness like the black hole does with entire galaxies. (try hearing that!) But it was the right thing to hear at the right time. And it saved me.
Now, since January, when I was informed of my negative tendency, I've strived to reach the 180° mark. Though I can't say for sure if I'm there yet, I can say that I'm on the right track. And this is how I know.
In days of old, I'd take one of those roadblocks and just sit there, staring at it. Not doing anything. Just waiting for someone else to come along, and move it outta my way. Instead of finding a way around it, or even reading the DETOUR signs, I'd just throw my hands up, and totally give up. Worse yet, I'd start blaming someone else in one fashion or another. (just for the record, that doesn't work either.
I'm no stranger to these mishaps along the road, so last week when one popped up, outta the clear blue sky, I felt myself starting my old negative pattern. Then I stopped myself. (wasn't gonna help anyway) And instead of blaming another person, or giving up completely, I kept thinking on how I was going to be able to continue on the same road. That's when I starting looking for the detour signs. I found 'em. They were so small at first. (is that why I missed 'em before?...nope, I just never looked before!!) And as the week progressed, I found a way around the road block. It took a bit of time, but at least I am getting there. Making PROGRESS. Keeping my focus on the positive aspects. Instead of spinning a negative web, I'm planting a garden of problem solving, and endurance. I see myself getting to my destination, even while others around me are telling me that I shouldn't be on this road, another road would be easier. While other roads may indeed be easier, this is in fact the road I must be on. No second thoughts. As a matter of fact, in the brief moments I starting to absorb what others were telling me I should be doing, I felt totally compromised. I felt deflated. Who likes feeling like that. Not I! So, I starting thinking about what I want, and not what other think I should be doing, and the energy is flooding back.
We all have decisions to make on a daily basis. Some are easy, some are not so easy, but they are all ours to make. We can change our minds, or we can hold steadfast. Maybe it's an unwise choice, and maybe it's the perfect choice. Only you can decide between the two. But in my personal life, when I'm faced with the big dictions, I do so with a love filled heart, and make the best decision I can with the information that's presented. That is indeed a 180° difference in my everyday life.
Now, back to this roadblock, that so small and removed from my mind, I cannot even call it a roadblock anymore, just a simple detour. I did not make it to see the woman who I've wanted to see since December. In the end, it was poor timing. No fault of anyone involved. However, the timing is appearing better and better now, as my DH will be able to take me this coming week. (this is what I really wanted in the first place.) He had been so busy with driving, and I was getting antsy, that I went and made plans to see her without him. Well, as fate would have it, next week he will have a few days off during the week. He will be able to take me himself, which is what I really wanted all along.
So...for all of you who have a dream...an idea, even an inkling about something, don't let it go. Roadblocks are a part of life. Period! They will always be there. You have a choice, do you do as I've done in the past, and sit and wait for someone else to clear the way, or do you look for your detour signs? The choice is yours. When you choose, are you happy, or at piece with your decision? That will tell you everything.
And for those people who tell you not to do something, or tell you that you should be doing something, take their suggestion, and decide for yourself if it's something that is going to work for you. Will you be happy doing what they told you? Maybe...maybe not, again, your choice. OR would you be happier making your own road?
Thanks for reading. I know it's a bit long winded...maybe even preachy, but I believe that someone out there can relate.